The issue is more than just politics
I HATE talking about politics! I do understand the importance of it. I pay attention and keep myself up to date. It is important to be aware of what is going on so you can do something about it(VOTE)! I personally just don’t enjoy talking about it. But since New York passed a law legalizing abortions on full-term babies, I’ve had a pit in my stomach. I have a lot of thoughts and feelings I couldn’t put into words and didn’t have the courage to say it publicly. But Taylor Madu, (the queen of Instagram, in my opinion) read my mind and put all my thoughts and feelings out there so beautifully. I am nervous writing this blog, but I’m inspired and truly feel I’m supposed to write my perspective as a mom and as a doula.
I heard a quote recently from Dr. Michael Maiden along the lines of, abortion is so much more than taking away a life, it’s taking away someone’s destiny! My heart felt so heavy. I felt an urgency to do something. Babies are being killed, their futures are being taken away from them. We need to do something, but I believe it’s so much deeper than just changing the law.
I haven’t put it out there, publicly, where I want to take my doula business. My goal for my business is to help pregnant women who are alone, single, abused, homeless, teenagers and/or women who contemplated having an abortion. I would love to partner with a ministry or non-profit that helps women who feel like they have no other option, who feel shameful, or feel alone. Having people, ministries and non-profits step up and help these women feel UNJUDGED, LOVED, SAFE, and EMPOWERED, I believe is the root of fixing the abortion statistic!
YES, signing petitions, marching and making our voices heard to change the law can make a difference. But changing the law won’t fix everything. If someone is desperate enough they will find a way. Desperate women tend to think there is only one way to “fix” the problem. They need someone to believe in them, someone to empower them and walk them through other options. If they don’t feel ready to be a mom and decide to give the baby up for adoption, they will still need support. I believe educating women in other options and supporting them through their choices can change the abortion statistics.
Something else that I haven’t put on the blog yet is our families calling to adopt. When I was 16 God told me that I will adopt a little girl from China. When I met Micah he was so excited and so on board that he wanted to go to China right away! We pray for her and her parents even though she may not be born or her parents may never know us. We love her so much already. But lately, since becoming a mom, I’ve had a desire to adopt from the States too, specifically to adopt an African-American baby.
According to Bound 4 Life, “Black non-Hispanic women have the highest abortion ratio. Black women’s abortion ratio has reached 444 abortions per 1,000 live births, while non-Hispanic white women’s abortion ratio is 124 abortions per 1,000 live births.” (www.bound4life.com/statistics) That’s why I feel so strongly to adopt an African-American baby.
My desire is to adopt from a woman who contemplated abortion but chose adoption. To also be her doula would be a dream come true. I just want to be there to help reassure and empower her. I want to let her know that she is loved and that someone is on her team. That she is making a wonderful, amazing choice by choosing life. She is helping expand a family, in this case, my family!
All of this to say, what happened in New York… is so heartbreaking. We need to do something to change the law. But at the same time, we need to find people, ministries, and non-profits to stand in the gap to help these women who feel like they have no other choice.
If you are looking for a way to help, there is a petition going around that you can sign. You can go to, please-ask-new-york-state-overturn-recent-abortion-expansion-laws . If you don’t feel personally able to help these women, you can always give financially. Find your nearest women’s shelter or try to contact your church and see if they partner with anyone. In the Dallas area there is a home called Hope Mansion that takes in homeless, abused, abandoned, and teenage pregnant women that you can send donations too. (www.hopemansion.com) Also, if you personally are alone, abused, single, a teenager who’s pregnant and/or you know someone who is, I would love to get connected with you/them to see how I can help.
Get connected, help bridge the gap!